I had a guy take me to task last week with the following:
“If we all create our own reality like you say we do, why is
it that I have to get caught up in this recession/ depression? I bought a
modest house, I don’t buy a new car every three years despite the flyers
turning up weekly in my mailbox offering me “0%, nothing down”, I don’t have a
50 inch TV. If we all create our own reality, why is it that I’m losing my job
next week, when I didn’t do anything to create this situation?”
Good point Joe (not his real name of course, but we’ll call
him Joe). And lot’s of people I come across feel the same way. The fact is
though, that yes, we do create our own reality, and it’s that reality that then
filters out into our family life, our work life, our community; where it forms
the collective reality that we call our society.
The truth of the matter is that the overwhelming majority of
us have been living beyond our means, and it’s the majority that shape the
collective reality. Now, when I use the word reality, please don’t think that
I’m going all “woo woo” on you. By reality I’m referring to our collective consciousness;
what’s acceptable, what’s not; what we value as important; how we live our
lives basically.
It’s not just in how we’ve chosen to spend our money that’s
shaped our reality. A huge factor has also been how we choose to spend our time
and where we’ve chosen to put our energy. Just because you didn’t go into debt,
doesn’t necessarily mean you were paying attention. Remember, our reality is
shaped by what we give our attention to, and the sad fact of the matter is we
know more about pop culture and sports than we do about how our economy works,
or at least we did before the melt down started….
So, my question for Joe, and my question for you, is: What are
you putting your energy into? If you, like Joe, are staring down the barrel of losing
your job, you’ve got some tough questions to ask yourself. Have I been spending
more time at work pretending to be busy that actually doing something? Have I
been spending more time on Facebook than actually working?
What if you spent that time looking for ways to tighten up
some of your processes? What if you spent it taking the extra step to solve an
issue for a client; therefore providing more value? What if you took a training
course that would equip you with skills valuable to both you and your employer?
This goes for time outside work also. If you’re really
worried about losing your job, should you be investing another minute of your
time caring whether the Cannuck’s ever
win another game.
Please don’t make the mistake of going into denial; the
writing is on the wall, there will be more job cuts: Caterpillar
20,000, Sprint 8,000, Home Depot 7,000, and that’s just his week…
So, the reality we’ve effectively created is all around us,
and it doesn’t look pretty. We can get all overwhelmed by that, we can feel all
defeated; or we can choose to take action. What are you going to do? What are
you going to do to make yourself not just recession proof, but depression
proof?
Let’s start with what you have right now, and to get you
started I want to share this story with you.
Last week I visited a family of refugees fromBurma, brought toCanada by the Canadian Friends of Burma (CFOB). I’d
been asked to visit to provide some encouragement to a nine year old boy named
Ta Hey Tha who’d been born with no arms or legs courtesy of the Burmese
military using agent orange
as part of its “campaign” to stamp out the riff raff…
As we were being introduced, you could see interest in Ta
Hey Tha’s face that I was different; that I was more like him than anyone else
in the room, but a deep sadness still pervaded this little boys eyes. A sadness
built up over a lifetime of, not just being limited, but of being shunned by
his community. Disability is not treated the same way in other parts of the
world as it is in the west, and although we still have a long way to go here;
in many parts of the world the disabled are hidden from the community out of
shame. So, I think you’ll agree Ta Hey Tha has a fair bit going against him; it’s
no wonder he’s not happy, but when Shauna (CFOB) suggested I challenge him to a
game of marbles, something in him changed. I’m not going to say he got excited;
Ta Hey Tha didn’t smile the whole time of our visit, but when the marbles were
bought out and dumped on the floor in front of him, all of a sudden he had a
purpose…
Over the next twenty minutes, I proceeded to get my arse
kicked at marbles by a nine year old boy without arms, or more accurately, with
no arms just below the elbows. My clumsy flicking of each marble with thumbs
that hadn’t flicked a marble for 30 years were absolutely no match for the way
Ta Hey Tha rolled each marble between his two stumps carefully whilst taking
aim, then rubbed them quickly together to shoot the marble out with incredible accuracy.
He didn’t just beat me; as I said, he absolutely kicked my arse!
The moral of the story of course, is that Ta Hey Tha beat me
by focusing on what he has. The list of things he doesn’t have is immense, far
greater than you and I can imagine and far beyond not having arms and legs. He doesn’t
have any control over what bought him to be in this position in his life; the
reality of others determined Ta Hey Tha’s reality before he was even born. But
it was he who turned himself into an arse kicking marble player, and it’s you,
and you alone who can equip yourself with the mindset and skills to not just
survive, but thrive; no matter what happens to the economy.
It’s your move.
What have you got?
What are you going to do with it?
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